To achieve something you’ve never had before, you must do something you’ve never done before.
I value each other’s privacy pero if ganyan lng din mababasa ko. Screw privacy! It’s affecting me…A LOT.
Masama na ba magselos?
— Judith McNaught
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #37
if you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world.
How To Deal With Rejection
How To Deal With Rejection
Ouch. Rejection can hurt. No matter how confident you are, it can be hard to deal with. Here are the Dos and Don’ts for surviving rejection:
- Allow yourself to feel bad…for a short time. It’s ok to feel badly after being rejection – everyone feels that way so don’t fight it. Let yourself feel hurt but put a time limit on it. Don’t wallow for days in misery. Just acknowledge that you feel badly and then move on.
- Feel good for trying. It takes major courage to put yourself out there and ask someone out. Whether or not they say yes, it was impressive that you even had the guts to do it, so feel good about the fact that you put yourself out there.
- Take some time apart. Give yourself some space from the person who rejected you so that you can get over it and heal your hurt or embarrassment in private.
- Shrug it off. If you act like you can just bounce back from rejection with no problems then sooner or later you’ll start to believe it. Act in a way that you want your emotions to mirror.
- Focus your sights on something else. Throw yourself into a new goal or project for a positive distraction.
- Shy away from taking chances in the future. Don’t let rejection get the best of you by scaring you away from putting yourself out there in the future. Learn from it and see it as a practice round for the future.
- Make a huge deal of it. If you act like it’s the end of the world, it will seem that way to the other person to. If you act like it’s no big deal and you can still face them without being awkward, then that’s what will happen.
- Tell everyone about it beforehand. If you do, you’ll have to tell them all about how you were rejected. Having to tell everyone and re-hash your rejection will only make you feel worse. If no one knows about it, no one will know that you’ve been rejected.
- Beat yourself up. Don’t turn rejection into a pity party and beat yourself up for being a loser. You showed great courage in putting yourself out there and took a risk – so focus on feeling good about that.
- Assume that it’s you. Don’t assume that they said no because of you. Maybe they have something else going on and that was their reason for saying no. It’s not necessarily because they don’t like you or because of any faults that you have.
— Bathroom graffiti
Yes, I’m still sad but I WILL NEVER GIVE UP and I will never lose hope. I am determine to make all my dreams possible here in Canada even if it takes me yearssssss to achieve it. Sorry but I’m keeping my faith and I will not allow you to break me. So I will stop this nonsense, put on a smile and live through the pain. I know this will pass. Aja yen! kaya yan :)
now is the right time.
You know that thing you have been putting off? Now is the right time to do it. Remember … if you act like now is all the time you have, you will always have all the time in the world.
PRINCIPLE OF COMPASSION.
From the moment we are born, we are always feeling something. We can stop our conscious thoughts when we are sleeping, but we can never stop feeling, because to be alive is to feel life. Every part of our human body is created so we can feel life! My principle of compassion lies in the ability to deeply understand the emotional state of another person or oneself. It is a virtue which requires to put ourselves consistently in another person’s shoes, to feel his or her pain as though it were our own, and to enter into his or her point of view.
I would point compassion like a force. A force that draws a person to another person, to another person. It draws people to form cities and nations, groups , clubs and societies, where they share common interests. It is a force that pulls one person to really get to know the other person’s feeling.
Compassion encompasses empathy. Empathy is the aspect of compassion that opens one to a deeper understanding of the other’s suffering. That is why compassion is sometimes called “love in action” by Mother Teresa.
Compassionate action is a willingness to go beyond self-interest and give of oneself for the good of the other. In this regard it is similar to altruism, letting go of one’s own needs to attend to the needs of another. Compassionate action where one can meet one’s own deepest need and that is to feel a part of a larger shared humanity.
Start putting yourself first- get where you want to be , and make your man be all that he can be. Remember this: the number one cause of failure in this country is the fear of failure. Fear paralyzes you from taking action. Don’t be afraid to lose him, because if a man truly loves you, he’s not going anywhere.
Day 11: Becoming Best Friends with God
God wants to be our best friend.
Our relationship to God has many different aspects: God is our creator and savior, Defender, Judge, Redeemer, Father, and much more. But the most shocking truth is this: God yearns to be our Friend!
Through constant conversation we become close with God. Friendship is built by sharing all your life experiences with him. It is important to establish the habit of a daily devotional time with God, but he wants more than an appointment in your schedule. He wants to be included in your daily activity, every conversation, every problem, and even very thought. You can carry on a continuous, open-ended conversation with him throughout your day, talking with him about whatever you are doing or thinking at that moment. “Praying without ceasing” means conversing with God while shopping, driving, working, or performing any other everyday tasks.
A common misconception is that “spending time with God” means being alone with him. Of course, as Jesus modeled, you need time alone with God, but that is only a fraction of your waking hours. EVERYTHING you do can be “spending time with God” if he is invited to be a part of it and you stay away of his presence.
What I know about myself as a reader is…
Reading is like breathing. It is an integral part of my life that I don’t even realize that I am doing it. For me reading is to learn and grow, to experience something that only our imagination can give, to understand, to marvel, to penetrate someone’s mind, to wonder, to laugh and to cry. Reading is to fathom other lives in other places and times; and to deepen a connection with them. In this paper I will talk about my relationship to reading. I will explore on the genres that I choose to read. And lastly, I will tackle about the places where I love to read.
Reading for me was a burden when I was in grade school. I did not find reading appealing at all. I felt that I was forced to do it just for the sake of school. I remember I told one of the teacher, that her reading session wasn’t enjoyable and interesting. It was boring! My teacher was so furious at me and I even got punished because of that (haha). Anyways, a few years later, one of my high school friends introduced me to filipino romance novels. We called it “tagalog pocket books”. At first, I was hesitant to read it. I told them that I have never read a single novel in my entire life, but my friends were so persuasive that they got me to bring the book home. That night I decided to try reading a few chapters incase they ask me about the book. To my surprise I got hooked with the storyline and finished the whole book in one sitting. It was the first time I finished a book that I really enjoyed. I could still clearly remember every detail about the book. I was hooked. I admitted to myself that I fell in love with reading. I know it took me some years to find reading enjoyable, but I never regretted that I did. I was grateful for it shapes my mind and personality into something productive. I am a fuller, more rounded person because I read. Now, I am able to imagine and empathize with others. I learn things that help me in my daily life and I experience joy, sorrow and relaxation when I read.
I’m a huge mystery buff, particularly murder mysteries, like Sweetness at the Bottom of the Pie and The Da Vinci Code. I also like reading fictional/ non- fictional, thriller and suspense books but sometimes I challenge myself in reading books that are outside of my normal reading comfort zone. I’m starting to get hooked on psychological books about intimacy, relationship and commitment. When I read a novel that I really love, I feel that I’m transported to a different world. I feel so close without actually being there and it makes me live through the story. On the contrary, when I read something I don’t like or am not interested in I usually give myself a chance to enjoy it. I read few chapters so that I can have a slight knowledge about the book. That makes me more interested in reading. Also, if I start thinking about the book and wonder what will come next I find that I become more interested.
As a reader, I like to read in solitude. It makes my mind at ease. I read usually in my free time, I read for pleasure, while waiting for the train or riding the subway, while shopping around, while standing in line at the grocery store. I read everywhere. I read because it is one of the very few things I can do that actually makes me a productive and better person. I believe the more I read the smarter I get. Reading disciplines me. It forces me to sit and focus.
Reading is immensely important to me. It shapes my mind and personality into something productive. Reading helps nourish my brain and gives information and knowledge. Reading encourages me to think and imagine, think out-of-the-box and imagine the impossibilities. It’s through reading that I can understand that knowledge knows no bounds and my hunger for it is insatiable. I think I can conclude that reading is a vital skill!